Cager

Cager is back.

I will be posting again but here is a cut and paste job from my Recon profile to explain what I have been up to.

Cager is back. Previous names here included Leathercager, Rubbercager and Cagerberlin.

I still keep a flat in Berlin but essentially I am now based in North West Ireland.

I retired from the whole fetish scene a few years ago. My interest in Master/slave dynamics never changed but increasingly I found that more and more guys hide behind what they wear, to such an extent that individual expression disappears behind a mask of conformity. 'I am my Langlitz leathers'.

Of course, I am a kind of hypocrite as I still love my gear. It does empower me. I like to think I become what the leather or uniform or rubber mean to me on a psychic level as I put them on.

But my retirement - really more of a period of reflection - has, I hope helped to clarify my thinking as to what this all means to me and what I believe I have still to offer despite getting older! In any case, I did not abandon BDSM, but rather stepped to one side to explore the dynamic without the fetish gear - Dad/son relationships. From that I learned that sex is great but sex with love is better. Even with the most debased and dehumanized slave, there is a place for love.

However, my career as a Topman has always had to contend with the egos of 'slaves', with passive aggression, with attempts at manipulation to give the slave what he wants, with the simulation of slavery that many bottom guys have become adept at projecting. Rare indeed is the 'slave' who is prepared to lose his desires, needs and ego and stand before me naked in mind as well as body and submit to being remoulded in an image that is not about an enforced projection of my needs or the slave's but a synthesis of both. This is not to say that I expect the slave to leave his brain at the door.

The slave must lose his ego. It is akin to a monk who strips himself of both worldly goods and worldly desires in seeking submission to a higher power. I, as Master, am not the ultimate higher power but I am the vessel through which that power manifests itself or is channeled.

Ultimately, my gear amounts to a kind of theatrical prop - and there is a sense in which this is all just 'play'. But what motivates me more and more is to dig beneath the surface of our behaviour and make this play meaningful and ultimately enriching for both Master and slave. I have striven always for a Master/slave 'reality' and the search goes on. But it is power exchange which essentially interests me rather than the gear. I can, will and do dominate in whatever I happen to be wearing. I need not present myself in full leather or rubber to dominate, train, educate and develop a slave.

By now, you will have realised that I am not your kind of fetish Top who wants to fuck and go. I have been there, enjoyed it and don't in any way knock those guys who want that and go for it. I am in no doubt that all I do is rooted in erotic desire. I love kinky sex. I love power exchange using sex as a method.

I am sure that for many of you what I am writing is pretentious wank. But I know there are submissives out there with the kind of mindset that will relate to what I say. Every slave is unique and so I have no one method I employ in my training. I hate the idea of 'conveyor belt' training. It is so boring. What has kept me involved in this scene for so many years is the variety of challenges that each slave presents me with. So, my methods:- anything and everything you can think of with just a few exceptions.

Nothing unsafe.
No lasting damage - physical or psychological.
No blood.
No needles.

The things that are common to my training are humiliation, control, transformation. The trappings of slavery - chains, collars, cages, cells, are still important to me. But if such things are your primary focus rather than submission, look elsewhere.